You are welcome to hate…but have all the facts.

This one is for the haters….(if you are a lover, you can read it, too, but this note is for the folks who are misinformed and very angry at me about the Lindsay Lohan thing).

Well, first, I have to say thank you for the attention! I am flattered. To give my words the credit you have is complimentary. Although I would caution you against taking things that others say so seriously. LIfe will drive you crazy if you do that.

It is ridiculous that this conversation is still going on, but I don’t like to be misunderstood. I have been told that there seems to be a misunderstanding about comments I made on twitter.

So, let me clear things up for you. If you want to hate, then knock yerself out, I have no problem with that, but make sure you have the facts straight first.

1) Lindsay Lohan did not have a miscarriage. That was the whole point of my initial comment. She didn’t need weeks off to recover because she DIDN’T HAVE ONE. She lied about it to get sympathy, and used it as an excuse for her poor behaviour. This is remarkably insulting to women. We are trying to make inroads to equality, and actions like that just bring us all back. She took no responsibility for her behaviour (showing up late to work, not showing up at all, partying all night) and instead used a sensitive issue that she knew would cut her some slack. It sends the wrong message. That a miscarriage is always a horrible and tragic thing and lying about having one can get you out of a jam. Boo. It is not horrible and tragic for everyone and should not carry a stigma of shame.

2) Linsday Lohan got the list of her Hollywood “conquests” leaked to the media. Remember, that I work in this industry. I have first hand knowledge of what goes on behind the scenes. She did it for publicity. And she lied about it. Many of the guys deny any trysts with Lohan. Again, very poor behaviour, and in my world, if you choose to gloat/lie about the guys you’ve slept with in order to get public attention, you deserve any backlash you’ve got coming to you. Sleep around? Sure! Hell, I’ve done it, it was fun! And it’s nobody’s business….UNLESS you make the effort to publish it to the general public in the quest for attention, then you gotta be prepared for criticism (talk the talk/walk the walk..). She has thousands of young girls who look up to her as a role model and is accountable for that. That kind of BS is irresponsible to her young, impressionable fans.

So there you have it.

You are completely entitled now to hate away. Hate is hard on your system (physically and emotionally) and you are the one who really pays for it, but many of you seem to be feeding off this frenzy of misguided anger that I guess you are getting something out of it. You’ll have to do it without me. This is my last comment on this silliness. Flogging a dead horse here.

I live by a code of responsibility and accountability. I have strong opinions and will always call out BS. I encourage women to be strong, love themselves, and to stand up for things they believe in. That is what we are here for. But please make sure you have all the facts straight before making accusations. Otherwise, you might look a little silly….and someone just might call you out on that….. 😉
Be well.
Sam

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5 Responses to You are welcome to hate…but have all the facts.

  1. ilseklijn says:

    Hey Sam,
    I had no idea this was going on, but I think you said it perfectly! I do not hate, I wonder sometimes and I learned how to speak my mind. I also truly believe that judging and hating is not a way to live. It only gives off negative energy and it will build up inside you. I never understood hate or judgments, I try not to do both. It’s also very easy to yell online, and hide behind your online account and not just do it face to face.

    Thank you for always speaking your mind and telling us it is okay to have an opinion and share it, just respect other peoples opinions too and try to listen to what other people have to say.

    Have a good one!

    – ilse

  2. lostdwarf says:

    I couldn’t believe you had to deal with all those hate tweets. If they really don’t like what you’re saying, all they have to do is unfollow. As for me, I had no problem with what you said, especially since it followed my line of thinking. I’ve known women who’ve walked through hell and were still able to meet their responsibilities. Life sucks too much of the time and the only way to make it through is to keep going and hope there’s light soon.

    And congratulations on your Stats grade 🙂

  3. Heather says:

    Well said my friend. Kudos for keeping your cool, as always. And bravo for speaking your mind. These are just a few of the reasons why we love and respect you Sam.

  4. Thank you for your post Sam, I love how real you are. I enjoy your work also, and sad to hear you’ve had so much grief about this subject. I enjoy the way you just put things out there, most people aren’t that brave. Keep writing.

  5. Melissa Cruz says:

    Haters will always hate. You said it perfectly by saying people should have all the facts before opening their mouths. I stand behind everything in this blog. I have 2 teenage daughters that used to look up to this brat. Thankfully it did’t last long. What she did is inexcusable. She is a mad influence in every sense of the word. Thank you for being open and honest. This is why I look up to you not only as an actress but also a person who tells the way it is. Never change!!!

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