It’s my last post of 2012 so thought I’d pass on some New Year stuff.
I’m not big on resolutions…they are cliche and when I fail I feel like a failure, but I will say that a friend and I always sit down over a glass of champagne and come out with the things we have learned from the past year or so. Thought I’d pass em on to you.
– don’t take what others say personally. If someone says something that irks you, remember that you have no idea what is going on with them at the time.
– don’t buy clothes that don’t fit. Buying something too small in the hopes that you will lose weight and fit into it NEVER works. I’ve tried that and I have a closet full of expensive stuff with the tags still on. Buy stuff that fits you right now.
– visualize what you want for yourself and your life. Thoughts have power. Do it every day.
– love your body. No matter what. It’s the only one you’ve got. If you love it, it will love you back.
– ‘perfect’ is an imperfect word. It doesn’t exist.
– remove ‘should’s. It is self-defeating. Replace it with ‘could’s and let it go.
– practice patience with your parents. I know they are maddening sometimes (a lot), but they will be gone one day and you don’t want any guilt hanging over you.
– positive thinking. It’s a new muscle for some of us, but if you work on it, you can incorporate it into your life.
– go see Wayne Dyer.
– have sex outdoors at least once in 2013.
– celebrate what you have, don’t lament what you don’t. There is always someone out there who wants what YOU have.
– let go of the past and choose your future. You can re-write who you are every day when you wake up. Who are you going to be today?
– cut back on the games on yer phone. My thumb hurts. That is a sign I’m playing too much Word Mole.
– smile at strangers. You will get far more back that you give out.
– be ok with mistakes. We are here to learn. Life doesn’t come with a manual. If we came here having figured it all out, how boring life would be! Look at them as learning and release them with love and humor.
– read more inspirational stuff, less fiction.
– volunteer for at least one event in 2013. Doing service to others is a miraculous way to connect with life and feel good. Again, you will get way more out of it than you put in.
– clean out your closet. If you haven’t worn it in the last 6 months, you won’t wear it in the future.
– eat less meat. I’m a firm meat eater. You can eat beans and tofu til they are coming out your ears but animal protein is necessary. That is my opinion and my experience (you vegetarians/vegans don’t have to agree and I respect that). My buddy was a vegetarian for 5 years and had a bite of chicken two months ago. She said her body rejoiced like a kid on Christmas. However, I believe that too much red meat is tough on the bod. So cut back on the red, eat the white, some fish, and lots of veggies.
– buy a Dyson vacuum cleaner. Worth the investment. If you hate vacuuming like I do, it will give you some motivation. A bit. Maybe.
– exercise. I know it’s cliche but you don’t have to kill yourself. Exercise has HUGE benefits: better sleep, better mental health, self-esteem, outlook on life, and for those of us who are lacking a certain amount of control in life, it gives you a feeling of control, even if it’s only a small amount. Walk around the block after dinner. Do the stairs instead of the elevator. I hate the gym. Find other ways. Walk with buddies. Do pushups and lift weights in front of the tv. Walk to the store instead of driving…etc….
– accept friends and family they way they are. You can’t pick em sometimes. They are there to teach you patience, unconditional love, and about yourself. You can’t change them so let em be.
– stop needing to be right. Would you rather be happy or would you rather be right? This has been a tough one for me. Sometimes I’d rather be right, but it beats on you after a while. I have learned, with great frustration, that no matter how ‘right’ I may be, or how ‘wrong’ someone else is, you can’t talk someone into your point of view, no matter how hard you try. People hang onto their beliefs like a drowning man on a life preserver. It’s our nature. You are allowed your point of view but so is everyone else. Except it and move on.
– have boundaries and stick by them. It’ll be awkward at first, but the payoff is wonderful.
– say no when you mean no. Again, it will be a bit hard at first and some people in your life are going to rally hard against it, but once you get the hang of it, it feels WONDERFUL. No one is going to break up with you for saying no. And if they do, you didn’t need em in your life.
– take the high road with rude ppl. VERY TOUGH. But you will always win, even if you don’t feel it at the time.
– if you are about to say something questionable, say it three times in your head. If it still makes sense, say it.
– before sending a heated/emotional email. Sit on it for the night before sending it. Read it when you are calm and you’ve had a chance to reflect. That one alone could have saved me some embarrassment if I had only heeded it.
– lower expectations. I’m not saying that you should take less than you deserve, but maybe look at where your expectations lie. If they are too high for peace and happiness, bring em down. Think about if it were someone else. Get perspective. ESPECIALLY when it comes to yourself.
There. Things that I have learned and will try to apply in the year to come.
As for new years eve, I don’t do much. My buddy Pam and I are going to put on our sweatpants, order pizza, and watch the first season of Breaking Bad. Bliss.
Happy New Year, everyone! Here’s hoping that 2013 is filled with laughter, happiness, and peace for all.