The next couple of days are celebrated as American Thanksgiving. Canada’s was a while ago but we have many American pals and you can’t give thanks enough, so let’s give thanks. For the good stuff and the bad stuff…it’s all part of our story and I believe there is a message or a purpose in everything, even if you don’t know it at the time.
I took a piece of advice from Oprah (yes Oprah…and if you are rolling your eyes, spend some time listening to her once in a while. She’s spiritual and smart and says a lot of really wonderful things if you are open). Many years ago she got into this habit of writing down what she was grateful for every day. AA does it, too, and that program is miraculous. The list doesn’t have to be long, serious, or well thought out, just a few things that you are grateful for that day. She said it would change your life, even if only a wee bit. I started doing it. Sometimes the things were trivial….that parking spot, waterproof mascara, socks…but sometimes they were big. I started to notice when something big came along when it happened because I would say to myself in the moment, “ooh, that’s a big one…gotta remember to write that one down later…”. So I chugged along writing stuff down for weeks. If I didn’t get a chance, I at least said it in my prayers at the end of the day. (Yes, I pray. Not to GOD but to a Higher Power. The Universe. I am spiritual, not religious). Oprah was right. I’m not sure when it happened and it wasn’t like a bonk on the head, but I noticed the things I was grateful for. I became humbled a bit. I didn’t take things for granted as easily. I appreciated the little things as well as the big things. I realized how lucky we are.
If you are reading this you have access to a computer or, better yet, a smartphone. Meaning you probably have a roof over your head, food, and some form of income. If that is you, congratulations! You are already ahead of the majority of the earth’s population. I know how it feels to have a sh*t day….raining for a week, didn’t get the job, worried about money, questions about health, and feeling like it’s never going to change. We all go there. But when I see on paper what I’m grateful for it puts things in perspective. I think that is the point in actually writing it down. Now I don’t have to write it down…not sure if you can still sign up but there is a website called Happy Rambles and if you get on the list, it sends you an email everyday asking you what you are grateful for. Perfect! I’m lazy…it does the work for me. I just type in what I’m grateful for and hit send. Lovely! And it shows you some of the comments from the past.
The point here is, try to find something to be grateful for every day. And say it out loud. Or write it down. It will put you in touch with your life even if it’s just for a split second. And you can be grateful for the bad stuff, too. I believe it is necessary. It has purpose and meaning, even if you don’t know why at the time. My best buddy Kelli died almost three years ago. Breast cancer. What was the point in THAT, right? But I realize that I was lucky to have her the time that I did. She did some great things here. And as my mother says, “darling, perhaps she was needed elsewhere…”. My mother is not spiritual, not religious, doesn’t believe in an afterlife or ghosts, but she did believe that maybe Kelli’s positive energy was needed somewhere else. Cool. I liked that. I hope it’s true. I am grateful for the jobs I don’t get and the hardships I experience. Not so much at the time, mind you, but I know there is a purpose and I ride it out, knowing something else is on it’s way. Gotta think positive (even if you have to fake it) if you want to bring positive stuff in yer life, but that is a whole other topic for another time.
Be grateful. Be well. Give thanks that you are here and do the best you can. I will do the same.
See ya next week!